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Tuesday, 2 November 2010

Can Middle-Aged Men Have Long Hair?



Still thinking about the The New York Times middle-aged/long-hair debate - but having concluded that as far as women are concerned, age is unimportant - it's quality, condition and a decent cut that matter - let's turn our attention to men.

Apart from rock stars, fashion designers and er, X Factor contestants (that's Wagner in the photo, not John Galliano), does long-hair really work for men of a certain age? I put it to the Blog Widower - shortish hair, longer on top, not much grey - and he said, "The two words that summarise my despair about this country used to be `The Monarchy', now they're `Top Gear.'"



Mmm..I can see where he's coming from but that's more than enough of smug middle-aged men showing off in fast cars/ front of Simon Cowell, wearing crap clothes and ladies' hair. Time to ask the experts.


The case for:

Author and style commentator, Paul Gorman



'I like long hair on older men - the Grinderman outback/maniac thing with a suit always looks fab.'



'When I was 38-41, I liked my hair long and straggly behind the ears. I was inspired by these guys I saw in Asia, in a Singapore shopping precinct. Skinny as hell with long hair, vests, crosses, sarongs and sandals and a sprinkling of tattoos. It felt right for a couple of years but it became problematic in London in the winter - too cold to dry it naturally. So I gradually reduced it and then went back to the quiff. But I might do it again - goes well with a beard once the temples have started to go and you get coarse greys.'


The case against:

Fashion writer and historian, Iain R Webb



'I think the short answer is short. Long hair on a, ahem, middle-aged man is definitely aging. I went through the classic mid-life crisis thing when I left my last full-time job. I went all hippie and grew my hair. Even though I work in fashion and have sported styles that had breezed my collar - think Surf Dude meets Coupe Sauvage - suddenly I had flowing locks that looked like I'd lost my way at Glastonbury Fayre in 1971! Thankfully, I now have a short back and sides with a side-part. I am actually thinking of getting a shorter spiky cut. The only problem: when you have a sharp short style you have to keep getting it trimmed to maintain the look.'

The verdict
As with middle-aged women, if the man has got a good image to start with, like Nick Cave and Warren Ellis, then long hair can look amazing. I simply can't imagine Iggy Pop with short hair. But for grown-up men without a rock and roll lifestyle, Iain's right. You can't beat the traditional short back and sides. Like Jon Hamm in The Town or the most recent episodes of Mad Men when Don Draper's super-slick image is slowly sliding off a bar stool.



Model, Andre Van Noord in the latest issue of Vogue Hommes International has a slightly longer version of this versatile 'do.'




Oh go on then, let's have one more photo...




Personally, I can't imagine going out with a man whose hair is longer than mine, Mr TNMA spends enough time in the bathroom as it is! What do you think?



Signed copies of Paul Gorman's latest book, The Life & Work of Barney Bubbles, are available here

And I'll be blogging about Iain R Webb's new book, Postcards From the Edge of the Catwalk soon. Promise.

Photos

Wagner: Rex Features
Top Gear: The Guardian
Paul Gorman: Sarah Lee
Iain R Webb: The Independent
Jon Hamm: The Guardian

23 comments:

  1. I think it's like they said about women - depends on the state of the hair.

    I love long, thick, clean, shiny hair on a man...and I also love very short cropped looks. Depends on the hair, depends on the man.

    Wagner/Peter Stringfellow - no
    James May...strangely....ok ;-)

    Ali x

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  2. Interesting. As with all style matters it isn't what's worn, but the attitude of the wearer. James May is probably the worst example of how it should be worn.
    And while we're at it, men, if you have long hair never ever do that pushing it back from your face like it's an uncomfortable wig thing. That doesn't look good.
    A similar question is about shaved heads - are they a good look or just thuggish?

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  3. I think it really depends on the man and the hair. Like flashy sports cars, it can read as a flashing "Mid Life Crisis!" sign. But we have a folky musician friend who's *always* had longer hair and a beard, and he just wouldn't be himself without.

    Whatever they do, just please WASH it! I hate the greasy locks look.

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  4. Again, depends on the man. I do find Wagner strangely attractive but James May, euckkk! Where I stay in Goa it's packed with gorgeous male hippy types, yoga toned six-packs and long messy hair. I'm in man heaven, I swear.
    I couldn't take anything Iain R Webb says seriously, look at the state of him. He looks like a throwback from the 1980's.
    Don Draper doesn't do it for me, it's like fancying your Dad, too square looking. Andre Van Noord on the other hand, well, yes please. xxx

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  5. I would say I fall into the long hair camp if the hair is of quality but I can happily do short when required, .......but 'full head of' is definately what I most enjoy!!

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  6. I love Iggy Pop with long hair!

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  7. If they can pull it off (so to speak!) then, yes, go for long hair - its just a bit rakish/non-conformist/scruffy?

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  8. Thick long hair, worn with aplomb - definitely yes.

    Shorter, but still floppy, quiffier hair works on both thick and thin, so also a definite yes.

    I just like hair, really. If you still have all your own, you should celebrate by doing whatever you want with it ;)

    And greys are sexay, too.

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  9. Ali - James May, seriously?

    Ellen - You're right about Jamey May, Ali please take note. Next week, middle-aged men with no hair!

    DP - ooh yes, I saw Mick Jagger in a shop once and he had that greasy mark on the back of his coat collar. Yuck!

    Vix - I want to go to Goa! Poor Iain, that's not a very good picture of him I'm afraid - I just nabbed it from the Independent's blog. He sent me a better one but I had problems uploading. He's lovely in real life.

    Young at Heart & Catherine - yes, full of head and rakish seems to work.

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  10. Have to agree with Alison - it does depend on the state of the hair. I always think James May needs a good wash/scrub! And Wagner does not do it for me at all.

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  11. Long hair on middle aged men doesn't do it for me, it's got to be short, neat and definitely clean.....I'm looking forward to your next post! x

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  12. Long hair on a man out of his 20s makes it seem to me like he's trying too hard. I'm not saying he has to have a crop cut; a floppy cut, slightly mussed can look great on a man!

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  13. Oooh I think my Draper and Mr Van Nood look very cool. Longer than that Mmmmm I have my reservations.

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  14. Definitly shorter hair men....
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  15. I think it depends on the man. I have a male friend, an artist, who has shoulder length hair and it really suits his artistic image. But would you use a solicitor who had his hair longer than yours? Perhaps not/

    So, I'm not sure about the hair but I'm positive that middle-aged men shouldn't be wearing gold spangley trousers.

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  16. I think I am largely against long hair on men in any case. However, you've made some good observations for and against here.

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  17. Again I tend to agree - quality and cleanliness of hair has a lot to do with it. But on the whole I think I favour the shorter look! x p.s. talking of hair - how short did you go when you said you went for the chop?!

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  18. I'm with Catherine on this one - long or at least floppy hair is just a bit rakish, but of course not all men can pull it off.

    Although I do sometimes also like neat, shorter hair, I detest very short hair & shaved heads. This may be a reaction to working with a load of ex coppers - you can spot them a mile off, the hair's a dead give away!

    Mr Coz prefers a short cut but I think keeping a little length is less aging on him :-(

    Last week I bumped into an ex colleague I hadn't seen for a while. He used to look gorgeous but has shaved his lovely locks & now just looks old! :-((

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  19. Love this (er, why has no-one given you a column yet *huff*?). I love a quiff on an older guy but I guess he needs the panache to pull it off.

    What about poor balding men, what are they supposed to do? (Shave it off, I say)

    PS: I think Iain R Webb looks lovely! Also, I think we need to have a photo of Bryan Ferry on there

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  20. The guy in the gold jeans is insane :) I know a gentleman of a certain age who has thick dark hair and wears it in a ponytail. He is First Nations and absolutely GORGEOUS. My knees go weak when I see him on the street. (Shh! Don't tell Don.)R. x

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  21. I think I'm in the camp which says depends on the state of the hair. Have seen some middle aged men who actually look good with long locks and those on whom it is very ageing. And for some it is so much a part of their persona that you couldn't imagine them without it regardless of its state!

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  22. I think those hair styles all look great. Long hair on men is getting more popular though. It is starting to not be seen as only for the rock and roll lifestyle as you mentioned. There are many professionals now that have longer hair. Next time I get a haircut, I am going to have them trim it so I can grow it out.
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